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Son phoned yesterday.....   Now son only phones when he has something to say, never just for a chat.  I've got some news for you mum, good or bad, i asked.  Well both good and bad, he said.  Now my son lost his job 2 weeks before christmas so i was hoping he had phoned to say he had work.

Your going to be a great grandmother he said.. What!!!!!!  Bearing in mind i'm only 55.  I started with the oldest, nope, next one down, yep.  Grandson no.2.

Technically he is my step-grandson but as i have known him since birth and his older brother from 18 months (then comes my sons twin boys and a daughter) he is just as much a grandson and loved as the others.  Whats more my son has brought them up since they were babes, he is their dad.  They say themselves their birth father - who they see regularly - is their father but my son is their dad.

My son is 3 years younger than my daughter in law so is only 36 and a grandad to be.

Now as this is something that happended on holiday under the influence of drink, nobody knows quite what the outcome will be or if we will even have any contact with the child, which will be a shame, but that will be the mum's choice.

It reminded me of when i was teaching a teenage group at church and trying to show them that all actions effect a lot a people like the ripples on a pool. Nobody can just say it's my life and nothing to do with anyone else.  Not just a baby has been created but a whole family full of relationships.  My mum becomes a great great gran, my sister a great great aunt, aunts, uncles, cousins have been formed.

But, and a big but, when daughter was pregnant with my youngest grandson, (she is a single mum), i was having a rant at God about it, and he stopped me and said very clearly, I DON'T MAKE MISTAKES. 

I knew what he meant.  He wasn't condoning the act that brought the pregnancy about, but the deed having been done, the resulting child was  not a mistake and must never be thought of as one.

Well that's it then, we will wait to see what happens and perhaps this will act as a warning to the others.  It's is a hard time for my son and wife as all his children are at a dangerous age where they are trying to find their feet in this mad world and spread their wings a bit.  They are no longer babes that you can keep in doors all the time and protect.  I don't envy him, i only had the two to worry about, he has five.  That'll teach him to have twins.  Husband's sister is going to have the same worries in a few years time as she has twins as well giving her 4 children.  It's no wonder we go grey.

Tip a Rarey

Rarey grew very rapidly and outgrew the pram in a couple of days.  He outgrew his crib by the time he was 6 months old and he just kept on growing and growing.  His parents were going mad trying to keep him fed and clothed.  By the time Rarey was just 2 years old, he no longer fit in the house.  When Rarey was 10 they just couldn’t cope anymore and after much contemplation, they decided they just had to get rid of him.  So they took him to the edge of a cliff on the channel.  As they stood there they looked down hundreds of feet to the base of the cliff, where the waves boomed in, they suddenly realized what they were planning to do.  Appalled they drew back looked at each other and said…  It’s a long way to tip-a-rarey!